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Post by Okayadokari on Jul 13, 2006 8:42:31 GMT -5
I was asked this question as homework for my English class. What do you think love at first sight is? I've been mildly attracted to a different girl each year (not that I flirt with millions, these things happen to everyone  ). In my first year of high school I was attracted to a pretty girl in my class, but that was really short after the end of that year and since then she hasn't been in my class anymore. Then in my second year it was a friend of the same girl, but it was so insignificant that I've forgotten who it was. Then last year it was another girl in my class. I really liked her personality and she seemed really nice to me. She added me to her MSN contact list, but after a few months I found out that she had blocked and deleted me. I asked a friend of hers what was wrong and she said that she told me to "F*ck off and leave me alone. Yes I did block him. And deleted him too!" Really harsh response, but I don't think I did anything wrong, and I never annoyed her or tried to "make a move" on her. Then when that was over and a new year, I like a new friend of mine in my class who I also like to make fun of (only verbally of course). It would be silly telling her that I like her since I like to make fun of her so much (as in "fake hate"). Crazy isn't it? |
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Post by Haruka on Jul 13, 2006 13:43:04 GMT -5
It seems like your attractions to these different girls each year is the typical high school life. Heh... it's fun isn't it? I can't even count how many guys I've been attracted to while in High School. ^-^;;
I don't really believe in love at first sight though. I think it's just a physical attraction that people get.
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Post by mikarin on Jul 14, 2006 5:46:15 GMT -5
I'm with Haruka on this one. It's physical attraction and not love. It's normal to feel like that in high school. You're going through puberty after all and young men can't help but have certain things go through their heads. I'll leave it at that |
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Post by Satty on Jul 14, 2006 11:29:45 GMT -5
In response to the national forum censoring program's actions, this message has been deleted due to graphic anger.
*struggles from men in white coats* I believe! As long as it's not a different single person every year. o-O That's just your little raging hormones! *gets taken away in smiley face truck*
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kayde
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Post by kayde on Jul 14, 2006 11:56:42 GMT -5
I believe in love at first sight. However, I believe that the person you fall in love with at first sight is your true love. But hey, I don't think it happens to everyone. I think you can still find your true love without falling in love with them the first time you see them.
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Post by thereisnospoon on Jul 14, 2006 12:26:33 GMT -5
I believe love at first sight can occur. There are certain triggers that can be set off by someone's personality, appearance, ethnicity, et cetera. There is some truth that appearance has a lot to do with it, but sometimes love at first sight can have a stealth quality to it (as strange as it sounds); one trigger at any point, even if you've already met the person before, can set it off.
At least that's what I've deduced from my own personal experience.
Now, does that mean that the love is as valid and long standing as any other? That really depends on the people involved because love at first sight has a higher probability of working out for adults than it does, say, teenagers whose hormones are racing.
I don't think those are cases of love at first sight, Crabolinist, because love (or another strong type of attraction) moves beyond just being mildly attracted to someone's looks upon first glance.
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Post by Haruka on Jul 17, 2006 13:48:41 GMT -5
I believe love at first sight can occur. There are certain triggers that can be set off by someone's personality, appearance, ethnicity, et cetera. Personality takes time though, and that's not first sight. The rest.... is all physical. LOL @ Satty.... love that  |
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Post by thereisnospoon on Jul 17, 2006 15:10:06 GMT -5
I believe love at first sight can occur. There are certain triggers that can be set off by someone's personality, appearance, ethnicity, et cetera. Personality takes time though, and that's not first sight. The rest.... is all physical. What I meant was you meet someone for the first time and feel yourself attracted not only to their looks, but also to the personality they've displayed within that first meeting. |
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Post by Smuge on Jul 18, 2006 12:52:43 GMT -5
A month ago i would have said that i believed, i met my bf,danny, when i was 11 and i asked him to "go out with me" the first time i had ever spoken to him. we were still together until last month when he ditched me for a girl in his year (hes a year older than me) so i guess it doesn't work for everyone. I thought i had found the best person for me, after 5 years with someone you get to know them pretty well. i couldn't imagine life without him. But i guess people fall in and out of love easier than i imagined. So now i would agree with thereisnospoon, in the fact that, i met him and liked his personality straight away and i grew to share what i thort was a mutual bond...but maybe haruka has it right... who knows  |
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Post by Betty Ann on Jul 18, 2006 18:13:34 GMT -5
The whole "one person per year" thing makes me think of this Nada Surf song called "Popular" which is REALLY old, but anyway, it goes like this: Ok, I might be the only person here who remembers that song... from like 1996. Wow, I'm feeling really really old right now. o.o So anyway, I think that "love at first sight" is due to biological responses within our bodies and our brains. Attractive qualities about a person, etc. Maybe even pheromones (hey, guys have told me I smelled nice enough for me to believe it has something to do with it!). I think our brains are mechanically wired to find certain traits attractive in each other, and be drawn to prospective mates that way. Of COURSE it has to be that way, because if we didn't have that initial physical response to someone, we wouldn't be so inclined to get to know them and start a longer relationship with that person. I tend to think from a biological and evolutionary perspective. But then again, I DO tend to over-analyze everything. I mean, come on, I have this huge website about Sailor Moon of all things. If that's not obsessive over-analyzing, I just don't know what is!  So I think it's totally normal that you like someone new every year! You're keeping your options open |
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Post by mikarin on Jul 19, 2006 6:35:22 GMT -5
Maybe even pheromones (hey, guys have told me I smelled nice enough for me to believe it has something to do with it!). I think our brains are mechanically wired to find certain traits attractive in each other, and be drawn to prospective mates that way. That's not over analyzing, Betty Ann, it sounds like a good explanation. This isn't exactly what I'm studying in my neuroscience degree, but just to expand a little on Betty Ann's post. To explain it as simply as I can, there are certain chemicals called pheromones that are secreted by the body. These play the function of attractive or repulsive signals which determined sexual preferences. Attraction in this sense could be seen as animalistic. Think about dogs and scents- the link could be partly attributed to pheromones. |
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Post by Haruka on Jul 21, 2006 15:30:34 GMT -5
Yay, I learned something new today. The dogs and scents thing is interesting.... except.... we don't smell people's butts. LOL Edit - Well... most of us don't. |
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Post by eternalmegan on Jul 22, 2006 9:37:06 GMT -5
yeh love nd just an attaction is different ! |
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Post by melon on Jul 22, 2006 11:56:09 GMT -5
I don't believe in love at first sight.
Lust at first sight?
I do.
Love is the type of emotion that takes building. You know you love someone when you love them with their wonderful positive attributes and their humanistic flaws. You love when you love the ENTIRE package.
The entire package takes time to learn, not an "at first sight" kind of thing.
What you have, is what is normal...attraction. In highschool its very pronounced because your hormones are going CRAZAY. However, once you get to college, you end up discovering the "more adult" (Though I wouldn't call it that, you're just more mature and therefore your process of dating is more mature) way of courting.
/end my two cents
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Post by arwentheelf02 on Jul 26, 2006 7:20:43 GMT -5
Hello from an internet cafe in Cambridge! *waves* And now, to buisness...
I believe in love at first sight. It's rare, to be sure, but as a believer of Destiny and a Divine Plan and all that stuff, I think it can happen. It's inexplainable and unplanned, but it's not impossible.
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